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Have you had to talk with snobs? Blushing and turning pale from a sense of self-worthlessness in the presence of a person who almost seems to you to be the Lord God because he can spread his fingers like a fan, smile condescendingly at you and speak through his teeth, looking through half-closed eyelashes not at you, but at the corner of the wardrobe behind your back?

Everything inside you freezes when you enter his office and try to prove your case, promote your product, ask for a vacation or an increase in salary, and even just wish you a Happy New Year. Alas, professional and intellectual snobbery is thriving everywhere in offices and offices, educational institutions and institutions, where they care not about real professionalism and not about business, but only about their own greatness.

It is easy to talk about snobs purely speculatively, not being in the same harness with them. Of course, one can amuse pride by the fact that they are tormented by their own inferiority and tremble from self-doubt. But when you stand in front of such a snob and listen to his haughty moralizing, scornful remarks about your imperfection, how miserable you seem to yourself against the background of his greatness, his sophisticated car, his office, his retinue.

How he likes to drop the phone at the most pathetic and important moment of your conversation, to slam the door right in front of your nose, to conceal the information that you just need at the moment. And much, much more can this inventive person do in order to only bring you out of a state of equilibrium and be nourished by the negative energy of your embarrassment, humiliation and insignificance. For him, all this is just a balm for the soul, he can’t say that he cannot live without it.

How everything is cringing inside you under his gaze of an arrogant gaze. And how do you want to go to his ear and enjoy the moment of his confusion! Just hands itch!
Often snobs are diligently assembled in groups, communities and corporations, because many want to get into the ranks of the elect, even without any noticeable reason. And the most ordinary and dull citizens become snobs. It is easy to distinguish “well-deserved” snobs from “undeserved” ones in an empty pocket.

Rules for dealing with snobs
Having lost my way in the sterility of a mental impasse, endlessly grinding sawdust in my mind-mixer, I, as a professional teacher, are sorting out not the options of revenge, but the methods of education that can be used in response. And I come to the only conclusion that I like, and which I use. With varying success, true, but constantly improving it.
• I put on a glass cap. And I do not pay attention to the "hairpin" in my address.
• I learned to say NO! Even if they speak to me in an indisputable tone.
• I have learned to adequately evaluate myself and do not allow anyone to doubt my well-known qualities.
• I have one universal way to deal with snobs - to be a simple person with them. With his own face, and not a mask, which is pulled on for recognition.
• And finally, I am leaving such “corporations” and “communities”, let them prosper without me! But actually it’s good to remember that snobs are people too! They have children, and mothers and fathers, they are sick, overeating, vilifying, coughing, spoiling the air, moping, bored and bored, like everyone else. There is nothing special about them except their overwhelming snobbery.

What is snobbery?
SNOB (book). A person who considers himself the bearer of the highest intelligence and exquisite tastes. “An arrogant snob behaves as if he is above all. This raises his self-conceit, although in reality, at heart, a snob trembles with insecurity. He climbs out of his skin, trying to make acquaintance with the powers that be, to achieve a warm place, for this exalts him in his own eyes. If he does not need you, the snob will pass by without even bothering to say hello to you. He walks with his nose up and talking to you only if you lift your nose even higher. He speaks to you with condescending grandeur, looking down upon. Often arrogant snobs are united in snobber clubs, where they will let you in only if you look properly, are famous or have enough money to bribe the doorman. Such clubs are organically necessary for such people in order to feel like people. ”
Excerpt from the book “Typology of harmful people. Know the enemy by sight. ” Author: G.I. Prokopenko, candidate of psychological sciences, corresponding member of the International Academy of Psychological Sciences)

How not to become a snob yourself
Corporate culture involves participation in work communities. This helps to get acquainted with influential people, career advancement and the achievement of other other benefits. And if you do not fit in time into the framework of this corporate culture, then difficulties await you.
Having entered the circle of the “chosen ones” and having mastered the necessary tricks, you will become the owner of a winning chip, or rather a black mark, by which you will be recognized and taken for your own.
So, since you had to stand in one line, you have to reckon with the rules of the “alien monastery”. To get started, try the following:
• Accept and understand what is happening. You are in the “scorpion jar”.
• Humble yourself. No need to be indignant at someone else's snobbery.
• Weigh your chances - whether you are so free and extraordinary to actively oppose or fight yourself. If not, then read the next paragraph.
• Adopt communication experience from the most “memorable” of the snobs of your department or the whole company.
Did not manage and became a victim? Try to quickly and accurately retreat. Mobbing in the workplace is completely useless to you. You will practice snobs in another office.

If you do not like to humiliate and be humiliated in return, then you do not need to force yourself. Run away from them! Look for it! And you will surely find normal human relationships and good, really normal creative teams that treat their little snobs easily and quickly. By the joint efforts of our humanity.

... or the basics of corporate culture

Science made us gods before we learned to be human.
Jean Rostan

Have you had to talk with snobs? Blushing and turning pale from your own insignificance in the presence of a person who seems to be almost the Lord God just because he knows how to spread his fingers like a fan, condescendingly smile at you, speak through your teeth and look through your half-closed eyelashes not at you, but at the corner a chiffonier behind you? Does everything inside you freeze when you enter his office and try to prove your case, promote your product, ask for a vacation or an increase in your salary, or even just wish you a Happy New Year? If all this is familiar to you, then, alas, you did not escape the fate of the majority of victims of intellectual and professional snobbery, which flourishes everywhere in offices and offices, educational institutions and institutions, where they do not care about real professionalism and business, but only about their own greatness. What is snobbery?

SNOB (book). A person who considers himself the bearer of the highest intelligence and exquisite tastes.
SNOBISM (book). Views, behavior, manners inherent in a snob.

And here is how a professional psychologist writes about it:

Haughty snob

An arrogant snob behaves as if he is above all. This raises his self-conceit, although in reality, at heart, a snob trembles with insecurity. He climbs out of his skin, trying to make acquaintance with the powers that be, to achieve a warm place, for this exalts him in his own eyes. If he does not need you, the snob will pass by without even bothering to say hello to you. He walks with his nose up and talking to you only if you lift your nose even higher. He speaks to you with condescending grandeur, looking down upon. Often, haughty snobs are combined into snobber clubs, where they will let you in only if you look properly, are famous or have enough money to bribe the doorman. Such clubs are organically necessary for such people in order to feel like people.

Arrogant snobs are very temperamental and require special attention. Snob will loom before your eyes and behave like a spoiled child, not noticing anyone around. What is written on his face, "I am better than you," actually hides the deeply hidden belief "I am worse than everyone."
Snob is tormented by a feeling of his own inferiority, he has such a fragile "I"!
(Typology of harmful people. Know the enemy by sight. Author: G.I. Prokopenko, Candidate of Psychological Sciences, corresponding member of the International Academy of Psychological Sciences)

It is easy to talk about snobs purely speculatively, not being in the same harness with them. Of course, our pride is amused by the understanding that they are tormented by their own inferiority and tremble from self-doubt. But when you stand in front of such a snob and listen to his arrogant moralizing and scornful remarks about your imperfection, how miserable you seem to yourself against the background of his greatness, his sophisticated car, his office, his retinue.

How he likes to drop the phone at the most pathetic and important moment of your conversation, to slam the door right in front of your nose, to conceal the information that you just need at the moment. And much, much more can this inventive person do, only to humiliate you and exalt yourself, to bring you out of equilibrium and to be nourished by the negative energy of your embarrassment, humiliation and insignificance. For him, all this is just a balm for the soul, he can’t say that he cannot live without it.

How everything is cringing inside you under his gaze of an arrogant gaze. And how do you want to go on his ear and enjoy the moment of his confusion! Just hands itch!

Yes, what can I say! How much blood they suck out of us, snobs of all Russia!

You know, sometimes they diligently gather in small groups, communities and corporations, because many want to get into the ranks of the elect, even without any noticeable reason. And the most ordinary and dull citizens become snobs. Moreover, these are even worse than the first, because they are the same tramp as we are. And then something completely unique is formed, sometimes not fitting into any framework, but often referred to as beautiful and even presentable.

CORPORATE CULTURE

Oh, this is a great thing, this same corporate culture. Great and terrible! Because even in spite of the most obvious terry lack of culture, she is dressed in such amazing clothes that you are simply amazed. At first glance at it, everything looks so decent: both strict subordination, and order of provisions, and streamlined paperwork, and a strict schedule of visits, your syllable and slang, your approaches, moves and exits, a special covert bias in communication, your own way to stick your finger out party breaks, etc. etc. And all this does not concern the matter, or rather, only in words, in reality it serves other purposes: exaltation due to humiliation of another. And if you do not fit in time into the framework of this corporate culture, then you will either be devoured or thrown out, like a cork from champagne, at a safe distance.

They have a whole collection of all kinds of small and big tricks to do this without much stress. If you can fit into their circle and master them, this will make you the owner of a winning chip, or rather a black mark, by which they will recognize and take you for your own. Only before this happens, how many pounds of the most diverse humiliations you will have to swallow in order to fit in, correspond and no longer timidly look into the mouth of the most important and leading snob of your entire corporation, in the hope that he will finally pay attention to you.

Yes, the first time you strive for their holy ranks until you realize with certainty that the fish rots from the head. And therefore, to follow the most important snob is completely useless. Because he has long and hopelessly lost his real living traits and ability to the simple and human.

Indeed, in life, and in the work to which we devote the greater and better part of our life, the main thing is not in corporate culture, but in culture in general. In the human ability to empathize and sympathize, jointly create and receive approval, without which no one is able to exist. We all, even in the most well-functioning bureaucratic hierarchical structure, want a simple, lively human communication with normal people. SIMPLE, NOT CORPORATE!

And when we suddenly understand this and bring this stream even into the most hopelessly tense corporate party bouts, we suddenly notice with surprise that it is easier for us to breathe. And I want to go to work. That the sun shines somehow differently. And our monitor reflects the creator’s happy and inspirational face, and not just a simple password-protected clerk who is unable to step to the right or left, because for this he was immediately shot on the spot without trial, because he would continue to violate the holy of holies - the basis of snobbish corporate culture of its sales department.

However, manifestations of snobbery occur not only in the sales departments, but even, it would seem, in quite prosperous scientific departments, in theatrical and pedagogical groups, in residency and dean's offices, schools and kindergartens. And also, imagine, in families, among friends and acquaintances, in informal formations and other parties. Everywhere, where, one way or another, people crowd a little, next to them snobbery of the most diverse kind is shifting from one foot to the other.

Sometimes it can be difficult for us to recognize him, so organically weaves into the image of these human gatherings.

But you, since by chance, suddenly stood with them in one line, you have to reckon with this. But you will not meddle in a strange monastery with your charter. You have several options:
You will have to accept it!
Perhaps reconcile!
Or maybe fight, if you are a free and extraordinary person! But it is fraught.
Some people will like to adopt experience and achieve new successes in achieving the level of the most snobbish of the snobs of their “department”.
And someone is likely to fall victim. And it will be the subject of humiliation and a boy for universal beating, it happens.

Honestly, none of the above options, alas, I personally do not like. More precisely, I like the fight, but I still want to live!

What to do?

Getting lost in the sterility of a mental impasse, endlessly grinding sawdust in my mind-stirrer, I, as a professional teacher, sort through rather than options for revenge, but ways of education that can be used in response.

And I come to the only conclusion that I like, and which I use. With varying success, true, but constantly improving it.

• I put on a glass cap. And I don’t humiliate myself when they humiliate me.
• I learned to say NO! Even if they speak to me in an indisputable tone.
• I learned to evaluate myself adequately and I’m not letting anyone doubt my well-known qualities.
• I have one universal way to deal with snobs - to be a simple person with them. With his own face, and not a mask, which is pulled on for recognition.
• And finally, I am leaving them of such “corporations”, let them prosper without me!
But actually it’s good to remember that snobs are people too!

They have children, and mothers and fathers, they are sick, overeating, vilifying, coughing, spoiling the air, moping, bored and bored, like everyone else. There is nothing special about them except their overwhelming snobbery.

What can you oppose to them?

1. Your professionalism!
2. Your talent!
3. Your courage!
4. The mind!
5. Originality!
6. Humor!
7. Simple-mindedness!
8. And most importantly, no comparison can be made with pretended arrogance - HUMANITY!

SIMPLE HUMANITY IS UNDERSTANDING AND CLOSE TO EVEN MOST MORNING SNOW!

Life experience and a frequent change of activity led me to the idea that not everything is so bad, and not everywhere it flourishes. And if you do not like to humiliate and be humiliated in return, then you do not need to force yourself. Run away from them! Look for it! And you will surely find normal human relationships and good, really normal creative teams that treat their little snobs easily and quickly. By the joint efforts of our humanity.

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